Conquering Fear and Embracing Freedom: Tips for Your First Solo Trip to Europe

Traveling solo can feel overwhelming, especially if it’s your first time venturing abroad on your own. For many women or nonbinary folks over 50, the thought of navigating a foreign country solo can bring up a mix of excitement and apprehension. But here’s the good news: you’re not alone in feeling this way, and with a little preparation, you can turn that anxiety into empowerment.

Here I am on my first solo European adventure after landing in Portugal, nervous but excited.

Here are some practical strategies to help you face your fears and embark on the European adventure you’ve been dreaming of.

Start Small to Build Confidence

If the idea of flying halfway across the world alone feels overwhelming, ease into it. Try a shorter solo trip closer to home—a weekend drive to a nearby city or a short domestic flight. This will help you get comfortable planning, navigating, and enjoying your own company without the added stress of international travel.

When I first started considering solo travel, I decided to book a three-day weekend in New York City.  As a Chicagoan, I was comfortable with big cities and public transit, but I was concerned that I would get lonely on my own.  I chose NYC because I would feel comfortable in a big city environment but still get to experience what it’s like to travel alone.  Being able to figure out the subway system gave me a confidence boost.  I went to museums and shows on my own, and found that I had a blast!  

Successfully aboard the subway in Manhattan.

Choose a location that offers some comforts for you but still helps you explore outside that comfort zone.  

Educate Yourself About Your Destination

Indulge me for a moment while the librarian inside me comes out:  Knowledge is power! Researching your destination can help you feel more prepared and less anxious, because you know what to expect.

If you’re someone who likes serendipity and hates planning, more power to you!  But if you find you’re anxious about what it will be like in your chosen country or cities, a little advance research – even if you don’t plan out your days minute by minute – can be reassuring.

• I like to search YouTube for “navigate __(city)__ airport” or “how to get from __(city)__ airport to the city center.”  Not only do you get step by step instructions, but videos show you exactly what it looks like inside the airport.  

• Learn a few key phrases in the local language. Apps like Duolingo or Google Translate are great tools for this.

• Understand the local customs, transportation options, and any cultural norms that might impact your trip.  Facebook groups are good for this:  look for groups called “__(country)__ travel” or “American in __(country)__”.  The Rick Steves Facebook group is also very supportive to anyone who asks questions.

• Familiarize yourself with maps and landmarks in advance using Google Maps or guidebooks.  I like to have a general sense of where my hotel is in relation to the museums or sites I want to visit.

Knowing what to expect can make a new place feel a little less foreign.

Plan Your First Few Days in Detail

Having a solid plan for your arrival can help ease first-day jitters. Book accommodations that feel safe and welcoming, such as a highly-rated hotel or a reputable women-friendly hostel. (Check out my other post, Finding the Right Accommodations, for tips!) Arrange transportation from the airport to your hotel, and decide on a few low-key activities for your first day, like a leisurely walk or a visit to a nearby café.

My second solo trip was to Hawaii: still in the U.S., but a longer flight. After checking in to the hotel, I immediately set out to find my way to the beach!

When flying to Europe, you’ll typically arrive midday to late afternoon.  I like to get into the hotel and take a SHORT nap.  Not too long: I don’t want to exacerbate jet lag!  I just take a quick refresh, then get out and wander the area near my hotel to get my bearings.  Find an ATM if I need cash, scope out places to eat dinner, then head back to my hotel the first night to plan tomorrow’s activities.

The more structured your first few days are, the more confident you’ll feel as you settle into your new surroundings.

Reframe Your Fears as Excitement

Psychologists often say that fear and excitement are two sides of the same coin. When you feel that nervous energy bubbling up, try reframing it: instead of thinking, What if I can’t do this? ask yourself, What amazing things will I discover on this journey?

For me, it can help to remind myself of why I planned this trip.  Maybe I always wanted to see the Colosseum or eat my way through Paris.  When I’m feeling unsure, I remember the goal and how great it will be to tell people afterward about my adventures.

Focus on the excitement of what’s to come—new experiences, new connections, and the sense of accomplishment that comes from traveling solo.

Practice Mindfulness and Self-Compassion

It’s normal to feel nervous before a big trip. Instead of fighting your anxiety, acknowledge it. Try a few mindfulness techniques to stay grounded:

• Deep breathing exercises can help calm your nervous system.

• Journaling about your fears can help you process them and gain perspective.

• As mentioned above, remind yourself of the why behind your trip—whether it’s to embrace your independence, explore a new culture, or prove to yourself that you can do it.

No matter how many times I travel alone, I still get nervous and anxious in certain situations.  I sometimes have to take a deep breath, remind myself that I put on my big girl pants that morning, and move forward.  Acknowledging that it’s okay to be nervous often helps me feel less nervous!

Take the Leap

At some point, the only way to overcome fear is to face it head-on. It’s okay to feel scared—that means you’re stepping out of your comfort zone. But remember, the reward on the other side is worth it: the thrill of independence, the joy of discovery, and the deep sense of pride in yourself for making it happen.

Your Next Adventure Awaits

Stepping onto that plane alone for the first time can be intimidating, but it’s also the start of an incredible journey—both physically and emotionally. By taking small steps, preparing thoroughly, and reframing your mindset, you’ll find that your fears start to fade, replaced by a sense of freedom and empowerment.

Europe is waiting for you. You’ve got this!